Heal Your Relationship with Your Parents

No matter what your issue is with your parents – whether it’s traumatic or seemingly mild – you can heal your relationship with your parents, by shifting its energy field. Even if your parents are no longer with you… Whether or not you think it can ever be resolved…

Do the Energetic Alignments below, to create real, actual change in the morphic field of your relationship!

I used to think that relationship with parents was synonymous with sucks. In college, when my roommate told me that her best friend was her mom, I was shocked and appalled. You’re not supposed to get along with your parents, if you’re any kind of cool – at least in the culture in which I came of age. I felt relieved when she said that her relationship with her dad was terrible. Phew, good, I thought – at least she’s not a total oddity!

The assumption that “a dysfunctional relationship with parents is normal” did begin to erode somewhat as I matured. But the echo of that expectation is still there, reverberating with collective expectations.

Depending on our perceptual filters, parental relationships come in several archetypical flavors – most of them negative: Dickensian trauma, loss and abandonment, repression and punishment, hyper-critical micro-management, benign neglect, over-permissiveness, doting spoilage, entitled pushy nepotism. We recognize innumerable shades of family dysfunction, from Oedipus to the Simpsons.

But where is the archetype of the healthy family? I can’t easily think of an obvious, popular, positive family role model in our culture that isn’t a Hollywood fabrication a la the Brady Bunch, or a Focus-on-the-Family fantasy. (If you can come up with one, please let me know, below.)

Since real healthy role models are rare, we must look elsewhere for inspiration, even if it’s only in our imagination. We must create our own new archetypes. Let’s change the patterns of energy and information, to create a new reality. Let’s build a new foundation and framework upon which healthy and high-vibration relationships can grow. Let’s improve our individual parental relationships, retroactively – this is actually possible, because energy shifts happen beyond time and space. (We’ll do all this, and more… in a Guided Healing Session. See below for info.)

Heal Your Relationship with Your Parents… Now!

Do these Energetic Alignments, and sense the shifts.

Tune into your relationship with your parents. Remember how it feels.

Now, stop focusing on that experience, and get into the Now Healing Space: go to your Center (spine area, up and out the top of your head) and connect to Infinite Self. Tune into your relationship as an energy field, as a pattern of information, and observe it. It will change as you do the alignments below.

As you read each declaration below, Enter it to your Center.
(For more info on how to do all this, take the Now Healing 101 course. But don’t worry, it still works even if you don’t know how or why!)

  • My relationship with my mother is now healing.
  • My relationship with my father is now healing.
  • My relationship to the archetypes of Mother and Father is now healing.
  • My relationship to family relationships is now healing.
  • I am now healing the morphic field of my family relationships.
  • I Align with full responsibility for healing the relationship.
  • I Disentangle from blaming others.
  • I Disentangle from self-blame.
  • I Disentangle from karmic patterns that hold dysfunction in place.
  • I Align with resolution of karma, and “learn all my lessons” – now.
  • I Align all my ancestors with supporting good family relationships.
  • I am now healing my family relationships, past, present and future.
  • I Align my relationships, mother, father, siblings, children and future generations with unconditional love and acceptance.

Sense the energy patterns changing. Congrats – you have opened this situation up to healing and Wholeness!

Now, tune into your relationship with your parents again, like you did at first.

Does it feel different? Notice the shifts that happen over the next few minutes, hour or days.

Go Deeper: Heal the Larger SITUATION – because it’s not just about the relationship, it’s much bigger than that!

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Comments (please add yours below)


  1. Ka.souravli on April 5, 2021 at 1:34 am

    Thank you, it might be a very short healing session but the benefit of this healing is amazing !

  2. Preet on August 16, 2019 at 10:48 am

    I discovered that pain in my spine was rooted in my unhealed relationship with my parents and badly wanted a solution. I googled and landed onto your page. I did this exercise suggested by you 5 mins back and I am already feeling lot of relief in my pain. Just wanted to say, “A big, big THANK YOU!” Loads of blessings!

  3. vignesh on March 2, 2016 at 6:33 am

    This valuable information should be used by every being. Thanks.

  4. Sangeeta Bhagwat on May 29, 2013 at 1:25 am

    Thanks Elma, what an important topic you have picked! I have been following your work and recommending it to many others for several months now. It is simple, powerful and effective.

    Will share this page on FB as well as my Flipboard magazine.

    Thanks so much and good wishes 🙂

  5. signe on February 2, 2013 at 2:43 am

    Dear Elma!

    THANK YOU so MUCH for this prescious Gift!!


  6. MICHELLE on October 30, 2012 at 7:24 am



  7. Claire on October 3, 2012 at 1:16 pm

    Thank you whole heartedly for this gift!

  8. Shamira on June 29, 2010 at 11:50 pm

    I did feel a shift – until my dad suggests I sell my house again and move in with them!!!!! LOL How about the Waltons for a roll model. Doesn’t that take you back?

  9. Isis on June 29, 2010 at 3:22 pm

    Hello All,
    This is a great healing that most of us need. We either need it to heal our relationship with our parents or to heal our relationships with our own kids. This feels great! Thank You and blessings to ALL!

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